Dating doesn’t change anything.

Being in a relationship isn’t all that different from being single. At least, not with my experience. I always thought it would change my life completely. But if I’m honest, all it’s done is given me a new best friend, and someone to daydream about (which, really, I did before anyway). A bit of my free time is gone, because I am spending it on the phone or texting him. (I’m in a long distance relationship right now. Only a few more months till I’m home for good though!!! Whoot whoot!)
For many people, I think they have a different experience. They become dependent on their significant other, and that changes their life. But for me, I am confident with who I am. I am still me. I still love God. I still love my hobbies. I am still my own person. The only difference is that I’m now sharing that person (ME!) with someone else. I am not different. I am the same. And personally, I think that’s how it should be. If you change for someone, you will not be content. Pretending is a lot of work, and eventually you WILL snap. Then things REALLY won’t be pretty.
So why am I confident my relationship will work out? Because I am being myself. Because he is being himself. Because we are self-confident, and we do not need each other to be happy. I was happy before he came into my life. He is an added joy: a gift from God. But I do not look to him to be happy. If I did, any small bump in our relationship and we’re done. I am not in a relationship to be happy. I am in a relationship to love him, and to honour God. It’s an issue with so many relationships nowadays. As soon as someone isn’t making you happy, BAM…. it’s over. How shallow is that?!?! Happiness? YOUR happiness is more important than the commitment you’ve made? Come on people! Look outside your little bubble of self-consumed happiness. Okay, I’m being a little harsh. But relationships are more than finding happiness. They are for finding love. Love isn’t always easy, but in the end, it’s always worth it.


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